Untangling the circuitry of self-abandonment
Some are put in the position of emotionally caring for an adult early in their lives at a time they themselves need more than anything to have their own inner world mirrored back to them. …
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Today may not be the day for answers
The contradictory feelings of hope and hopelessness, meaning and flatness, anxiety and rest. The shakiness and uncertainty in the belly. The tightness in the throat. The raw breaking inside the heart. The joy that at …
Disappointing another
In any meaningful relationship, we will inevitably disappoint our partners, families, and friends. To skillfully navigate the energies of disappointment is a real yoga that can take quite a lot of awareness (and compassion). The …
It’s okay to feel sad
It’s okay to feel sad, to be uncertain about it all, to be melancholic, to lament, and to grieve.Despite the madness of our world and a collective disembodiment to the blue shades of the spectrum, …
Free video – The Alchemy of the Heart
Dear friend, I recently recorded a video on “The Alchemy of the Heart,” which you can watch here:>>Access the short video webinar on The Alchemy of the Heart hereDuring the webinar, we’ll explore:- The importance of …
A light found only there…
There’s something about periods of liminality and transition which contain a hidden doorway into reunion with what I sometimes refer to as “the lost orphans of psyche and soma,” a group of internal friends and …
The Resting Your Nervous System self-guided home study course
My online course – Resting Your Nervous System: Embodying a Trauma-Sensitive Spirituality and Discovering a Felt Sense of Safety – is available in a self-guided home study format. Around 18 hours in length, it weaves …
Real magic
Many are familiar with the term “holding environment” as elucidated by Winnicott, a warm and poetic description of a relational configuration rooted in empathic attunement and right-brain to right-brain resonance.As the matrix of secure attachment, …
Turning toward the broken and the shattered
Sometimes I wonder if all therapy isn’t grief therapy when all is said and done. The original Greek therapeia referred to attending, caring for, sending breath into. Not “curing,” “fixing” or even “healing,” not these heavy clinical …
Caring for yourself in a new way
The next time you notice that you’re attacking yourself, caught in a looping storyline about how you’ve failed, how you’ll never get it right, how there is something just fundamentally wrong with you …When you’ve …