Light for the pathway home
Often, in my clinical work, a client will report the appearance of a young child, an innocent animal, or even something like a wilted flower, representing a younger part of themselves that has been carrying …
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To care in a new way
In a moment of activation, the emissaries arrive. Spinning, twirling, visitors from another time and place. Not come to harm but to reveal, for reunion.A great meeting is being assembled. Invited guests and uninvited, weary …
The full-spectrum nature of healing
There is a certain death that occurs as part of the healing process, in the deepening of self-awareness, something that does not survive illumination. While it is tempting to spin out of the uncertainty and …
Already held
Many are familiar with the term “holding environment” as elucidated by Winnicott, a warm and poetic description of a relational configuration rooted in empathic attunement and right-brain to right-brain resonance.As the matrix of secure attachment, …
E-mail service for Matt’s blog being discontinued
Dear friends, Please note that moving forward, we have decided to discontinue the email service associated with this blog (this will be the last post that will be emailed out). I will not be discontinuing the …
Seeds of holding and light
Over time, as we deepen in our practice, we may come to discover that taking care of our unresolved emotional wounding and unprocessed trauma, and resting our own nervous systems isn’t something we do only …
Untangling the circuitry of self-abandonment
Some are put in the position of emotionally caring for an adult early in their lives at a time they themselves need more than anything to have their own inner world mirrored back to them. …
Today may not be the day for answers
The contradictory feelings of hope and hopelessness, meaning and flatness, anxiety and rest. The shakiness and uncertainty in the belly. The tightness in the throat. The raw breaking inside the heart. The joy that at …
Disappointing another
In any meaningful relationship, we will inevitably disappoint our partners, families, and friends. To skillfully navigate the energies of disappointment is a real yoga that can take quite a lot of awareness (and compassion). The …
It’s okay to feel sad
It’s okay to feel sad, to be uncertain about it all, to be melancholic, to lament, and to grieve.Despite the madness of our world and a collective disembodiment to the blue shades of the spectrum, …