You don’t have to fix anyone’s problems. You don’t have to save them, heal them, or get them to take on your favorite metaphysical beliefs, theories, and techniques.Just be there with them so that they feel felt and understood. Bear witness to their own organic wisdom as it recalibrates, reorganizes, and emerges.Listen. Not only to their verbal narrative but to the somatic story as well. To the secret, sensitive language emerging from their heart.Bracket your beliefs and systems for a few moments. Attune. With the poetic beauty and power of your mirror neuron system, enter into the miracle we-space with them, so that they feel felt.I’m with you. I’m here. I feel you. I understand you. Be midwife as a new story is woven with new cloth, one that is majestic enough to contain the immensity that they are. One that is updated in real-time, integrated, spacious, flexible, translucent, and kind.Extend to them a soothed nervous system, a sanctuary of presence, a field of permission where they can go through their experience without any pressure to heal or to meet some hidden agenda in order for you to stay close. Resist the temptation to “teach” them. But instead, “reach” them, finally, by way of the circuitry of empathic immersion.It’s going to be difficult to do this if we are out of touch with our own unlived life – with the unmet grief, the unheld sadness, the unmetabolized rage. If we have disavowed these visitors – including through our endless metaphysical theories and beliefs: it will just be too unsafe to enter the vessel with eyes and heart open.Of course the mind has such a hard time with this. It just can’t believe it. What about my theories and techniques and spiritual beliefs and all of it? I must convey it all and show them.But the body knows. The heart knows. The holy nervous system knows.The Other – whether outside us or taking internal form – is not in need of new information, theories, or spiritual beliefs, but needs and wants and longs for you… your nakedness, your tenderness, your raw unfiltered being, your love.Please stay tuned for information about my new 2023 training group and community, which will get started on February 1st. To ensure you receive the information, please be sure that you’re on my mailing list.